Sleepwear and Loungewear – What Can I Wear to Look Good Around the House?

I am temporarily a stay-at-home dad (a 2-year-old and a 4-month-old). I try to treat my days somewhat like work days. I get up early (5-ish) and try to get some things done during the few hours of somewhat uninterrupted free-time that I have throughout the day. I like what you say about the importance of how we dress, and I like classic, timeless, style, but I’m unsure how to apply those things to my everyday situation of staying at home. I only have to get out to go buy groceries once a week and go to church. I want to be comfortable, but still respectable in how I dress. Hopefully, I will soon have an elementary/middle school teaching job, so that is the vocation my wardrobe will soon need to correspond to.

I would also like to hear your thoughts on sleepwear.

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4 Replies to “Sleepwear and Loungewear – What Can I Wear to Look Good Around the House?”

  1. Sleepwear is pretty much entirely up to you, so long as it’s what you’re wearing in the privacy of your own bedroom. At the point where you’re walking out of the bedroom, through the house/apartment, and maybe out on the front step to pick up the paper or something — then you want to think about the fashion a little.

    For functional pajamas that won’t scandalize the neighbors, a two-piece set of drawstring pants and a matching button-fronted shirt is comfy and timeless. If you’re fancy you get it in silk (or a synthetic that looks like silk); if you’re more inclined toward comfy practicality you go with a soft cotton flannel. Either way the matched set really makes a startling improvement on boxers and a T-shirt, or on a bathrobe and drawstring pants a la “the Dude.”

    But again, as far as what you wear in your actual bed goes, wear what’s most comfortable. A good night’s sleep matters more than looking stylish while you’re unconscious.

    As far as the other question goes, making the effort to dress in “work day” clothes even when you’re not leaving the house can have a surprising mental effect on you. I also work from home (as a fashion writer, among other things!), and I always get more done if I’ve taken the time to shower, shave, and put on a decent pair of pants and a collared shirt. I draw the line at putting on a necktie and a jacket unless I’m actually going out, but just having decent slacks and a nice shirt on makes you feel a lot more productive, as well as saving you steps if you realize you do have to duck out of the house on an errand.

    Elementary school teachers usually have a pretty relaxed dress code as far as I’ve ever seen, but for men I’d generally recommend collared shirts with either a sweater or a casual jacket. You don’t really need to look fancy for the kids, but it’ll make a good impression on your fellow teachers and the administrators — and hey, you’ll be setting a good example early on in the students’ lives.

    Hope that helps! I know Antonio has videos specifically on dressing for schools and classrooms at the Real Men Real Style video channel, but I don’t think there is one on dressing to work from home yet. Could be an interesting one.

  2. Sleepwear is very personal and I agree with Geoffrey, one wears or does not wear what is comfortable to bed. So if you are a T-shirt only guy, don’t feel guilty about it. Just make sure the drapes are drawn if you live on a busy street and might have to turn on the lights in the middle of the night. Your neighbours are the only ones who need to know what you are wearing. The exception to this rule might just be if you have to share a space with a travel companion who is not your romantic companion. Then something lower deck is in order.

    As for loungewear, finding good pajamas is a difficulty. They should be all cotton or all silk. The drawstring is a better closing method than buttons. Pajama tops should match pajama bottoms or compliment them well.

    Buy the best type of robe or dressing gown you can afford. I purchased a lambswool one lined with silk. It has to be dry cleaned, but I feel like a king in it.

    To be avoided are lounge pants made out of flannel or cotton. While these look comfortable, they have the annoying habit of gapping open. So unless you are wearing underwear or are an exhibitionist, avoid.

  3. Thanks for the responses guys. I checked out the wardrobe starter for teachers. That will be a great help when I get a job. I still have curiosities about how men from the “classic” times (1940’s – 1960’s ?) dressed for bed, for lounging around the house all day, and a work from home/watch the kids situation (I know the last scenario is a bit hypothetical since men didn’t generally do that back then). So I guess my interest at this point is one of historical curiosity. All I have in my head right now is what I’ve seen on shows like “I Love Lucy.”

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